Archive for the ‘Pet Peeve’ Category

I chose this prompt this week for MamaKats writing workshop because, well, I’m a guy. I fart and take credit for it (actually it just makes my daughter laugh but she laughs at all weird noises), I burp loudly, I play video games, I am a guy which is a translation from Cherokee which means “Big Child” (actually it isn’t from Cherokee but I am sure it means Big child in some language). In fact, I think I am the only guy who participates in this workshop but it’s a great workshop and I can give you at least ONE guy’s perspective on things.

Believe it or not, I am a pacifist. I do not believe in violence or physical altercations, however, I am a big advocate of peace but I am not naïve. I do believe in knowing how to protect yourself and your family so I do hold a belt in Aikido, albeit a small belt but it’s a belt nonetheless.

With all that said, I cannot remember ever really punching anyone or really anything. I think I may have punched a tree once when I was frustrated… but it was a daunting Maple and it had it coming!

Instead, I am going to write about someone I would LIKE to punch and that is the boy monster downstairs. You see, we rent the upstairs of a shared, 2-family house. I have lived in many apartments in my life and have always had consideration for my neighbors around me. I keep things quiet as can be and try not to cause trouble. I have never had a neighbor issue before. My first apartment was in a complex and my next door neighbor liked to listen to his stereo loudly, but at exactly 10pm he turned it down or off. To me that is respecting your neighbors, to a degree.

Now we have lived in this house for 3 ¾ years. The first 3 years it was just me and my wife. 6 months ago we had our daughter and that’s when things that bothered us a little but not too much became just annoyingly rude and inconsiderate.

The boy downstairs is around 9-11 now. Apparently he does not know how to walk because he seems to jump, LOUDLY from room to room. It shakes the house and he does this at ALL HOURS OF THE DAY AND NIGHT. At night I wear headphones when I am watching movies or videos on my computer so as not to bother my wife as well as the neighbors. Now with the headphones on I cannot hear much. My wife has to yell to me if she is in the same room or tap my shoulder to gain my attention, however, I can hear and feel the vibrations from the boy downstairs slamming doors and jumping, sometimes until 1 in the morning.

Over the last 3 years we have been locked out about 10 times, when we only went out to throw out the garbage and we were right in front of the door! After the first 4 times I started ringing their doorbell to be let in as it was their son who locked me out and they act as if they have no idea WHO in their house would have done it. we have to bring our full set of keys just to throw out garbage or cans. Once the boy came out and couldn’t reach the recycle bin from the stoop so I took the bag and threw it out for him and was walking in right behind him… but he had locked me out. Once in the almost 4 years, I went down there when he was jumping and shaking the house for about 5-10 minutes straight at 11:45pm to ask them to stop and he acted like he had no idea what was happening. I had to tell him that someone in his house is jumping and I do not want the baby to wake up. If I can hear it upstairs I am sure they hear it in their house, but he acted like he had no idea what was going on.

It only became worse the next night.

The latest issue was Christmas Eve.

We thought it would be nice to drop off cookies and some other things as a nice gesture for Christmas. I knock on the door and no answer. Now I hear them in the kitchen and their door is no thicker than my own. I knock again and I hear them say “Someone is knocking on the door.” Then the boy opens the door about 4 inches and then slams it shut. The daughter, who is about 3 years older than he is, sort of stated his name and then he opened the door fast. I was holding my daughter because, well, she is cute and whenever they see us they always stop to say hi to her. Luckily I learned a long time ago to keep one foot in front of an outward opening door. If I hadn’t he would have probably hit my 6 month old with the door.

When the door opened the boy was there walking away and giving me a VERY mean look and the daughter came over and I gave her the gifts and said Merry Christmas, but at that moment I wanted to grab the little turd by the neck.

We are in awe of how rude they let this boy act. They never make him apologize. Once, when I rang their bell to be let in because he locked the screen door, he opened the door without looking at at the door and walked away as I am slamming on the door for him to unlock it. The mother was right there and unlocked it but didn’t say one word to him. Maybe I am old fashioned or brought up differently, but if that was my son I would have made him march out and apologize to them for locking them outside.

Even as I am writing this the jumping and door slamming is going on downstairs.

So this boy is definitely someone I would really like to punch and maybe knock some sense into. We have talked to the parents about the noise level in general (I didn’t want to point out the boy to avoid issues) and they say they will do what they can. Nothing happened. I talked to the landlord, who coincidentally is the father/grandfather to the parents and kids downstairs and he said the same thing. He will talk to them but nothing. So the only thing left for me to do is when they are loud is for me to jump on the floor and make noise back. I am hoping they will get the message but I doubt it.

So now we are on the quest for a new place to live until I finish school and we can move out of New York… but that was a different older post in itself.

Has anyone ever had to deal with loud, rude, inconsiderate neighbors?


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I work in an Emergency Room, my shift ends at 11pm and I arrive home about 15 minutes, or less, later. After a shift I have a huge problem falling asleep as I am not tired until around 1 or 2 in the morning, so I do the feedings at night so my wife can get some much deserved sleep.

Usually around 12:30ish my daughter starts to stir and make noise so I bring her in with me and she conks out for another 30 minutes or so before she is REALLY hungry. As I am feeding her I watch tv, VERY quietly, and I am an avid fan of HGTV. I LOVE this tv network. It shows so many Do it yourself projects and ideas, but one of their shows is HOUSE HUNTERS.

If you are unfamiliar with the show, it follows a couple around with a real estate agent while they show 3 houses and at the end, the couple chooses one house to place a bid on and then they tell how much they paid for the house as well as any changes they made to it. It can be a little addictive, especially when you are trying to guess which house they chose.

The show is REALLY good, but the people they have had on the show lately have been the bottom of the barrel type people. I mean EVERYONE wants to buy the best things for the lowest price, but these people seem to expect a mansion for the price of a cardboard box.

So the recent episodes, these people have CRAZY budgets. They are approved for somewhere around $800,000 or more but expect to buy multi-million dollar homes for around $300,000 it seems! I can understand spending $500,000-$750,000 and expecting you can just move in and not do much if anything. I mean, most people do make changes to their home to make it their own such as paint walls or changing the hardware on cabinets, but some of these people… I think they feel if they knitpick everything they will receive a HUGE discount when bidding instead of realizing, it’s just superficial things that can easily but done themselves but I guess they feel they are too above painting their own rooms.

One couple stated they wanted a fixer upper and when they were shown a house that fit the bill and the house was over 3,000 square feet as well as being sold for ½ the price of the houses in the same neighborhood, they did nothing but complain. Maybe its just me, but when I think of a fixer upper I think of a house that requires so real work. Maybe dry wall needs to be done or maybe a bathroom needs to be completely gutted, I think of MAJOR work. I think the people on the show do not really know what a fixer upper is. If you can’t do the work needed FOR the fixer upper, don’t ask to see fixer uppers and then act like the world is going to stop because you have to repaint a room because the last people had REALLY bad color choices. Or act like the entire house is useless because someone put lime green shag carpet in a room. People change their carpeting all the time, so realize… if someone put it in, you can take it out and change it!

By the end of the episode, these people buy the house that is the exact OPPOSITE from what they were asking for and then put all this money into changing to be what they wanted. When I start house hunting, I have specific criteria in mind and there may be some minor things I will compromise on, but the major things I would not. Things like the size of the house, the minimum size of the lot it is on, the fact that property taxes are a concern and so on.

But that is why a GREAT show, like House Hunters annoys me. What do you think? Do you watch the show?

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